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Lord Teach Me How to Pray

One of my first prayers was “Lord teach me how to pray.” It is the beginning of humility and opening your heart to God to help you in your prayer. Learning how to pray is one of the most fundamental and needed skills in our experience of following the Lord.Hebrews 11:6, ESV: “And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.” Who do you believe God is for you? Know that He is a loving, good and patient God. You do not need to fear by coming to Him, because He knows you and He has created you in His image and likeness. Every day be led by His Holy Spirit into how and what He wants you to pray, including various prayers and praying in Spirit. This word has helped me to be strong, in Jude 1: 20 But you, dear friends, by building yourselves up in your most holy faith and praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in God’s love as you wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life.” My recommendation, and what I do is; Read the Bible, Pray, love and wait on the Lord. I repent and intercede for our nation and for the church.

 I have learned to come to the Lord just as I am.  That’s how He really wants us to come to Him.  I do not need to try and impress Him or clean up my act, thank God! God is inviting you to know Him personally, to experience His unconditional love, and to be in Heaven with Him forever. The first step is that if you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, or you went away from Him and you want to recommit your life to Him, then you need to pray and believe. Pray in your heart and out loud saying, “Lord I repent from all of my sin. I ask you God for your forgiveness. I confess and belief in Jesus Christ and I accept him as my Lord and Savior.” So simple if you mean it from your heart, now you are saved and have become a Christian. This is the most important prayer that you can do. That will change your entire life from this day on and forever in Eternity. I am so happy for you to be part of God’s family! This is the best decision you can ever make in your life.

Some of the most valuable prayers that God and my spiritual family has taught me is:

  1. First, I always invite the Holy Spirit to come and enter the flow of the living waters inside of me. When we accept the Lord into our heart, the Holy Spirit now dwells inside of you always. I say “I welcome you to come Holy Spirit. I need you, I love you, speak to me today, guide me, illuminate your word the Bible to me so I can know you more my God.” Before I get out of bed I say in my heart or out loud,” Good morning Holy Spirit. I praise Father God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit. I also say this is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24.” Who can I serve today? This sets my day in a positive way. What divine appointment waits for me? Who should I pray for today?
  2. In the morning I pray as a warrior, a soldier ready for the day. I say “I put on the whole armor of God to stand against evil and I say Jesus put on me your belt of truth and expel all lies of the enemy, breastplate of righteousness protection over my heart emotions, my feet gospel of peace to walk in your shalom, shield of faith not look on outside arrows, helmet of Salvation over my mind protection, and sword which is the word of God believing and living it out. Also, I pray rear guard of your glory in the back of me. This is in Ephesians 6:13-17. This experience, this routine is important to do daily. It will help protect you and keep you strong against the enemy.
  3. It is so vital to spend that alone time with the Lord in prayer. It’s so vitally important to open your heart to Him and seek His heart in who He is. Get to really know Him daily, just like you would with your best friend.  Be in His presence as it will change you inside in your inner most being and others around you. You can start out for around 5 minutes, then do longer time. Spend each day in relationship with Jesus who loves you unconditionally. This is my favorite of all things that I do. It is where I experienced him in a deeper way, the most meaningful way.
  4. At times I get on my knees, lay or sit in my favorite chair and say, “Here I am your beloved daughter speak to me for your servant is listening, I love you Lord and need you.” Listen to hear.
  5. Turn on worship or praise music to enter his gates with thanksgiving and gratitude in your heart.
  6. Ask Him questions, have a chat, a conversation with God as you would with a friend. “My Lord I desire to be close and near to you every day. Help me to know you more, who you are to me? And who you are for me in this situation? I want to love you, myself and others, so please help me. What am I missing?” Lord Jesus what is on your heart for me today? What do you want me to do? How can this change me today? What does it mean Lord? Be quite and listen to God speak inside of your heart, or through a word or worship song. He talks in different ways. His voice is gentle and kind.
  7. PRAYER FOR MYSELF: God is good, and “something good is going to happen to me today.” Psalm 119:68 “You are good, and what you do is good; teach me your decrees.” Declare His Word over yourself.
  8. I pray Isaiah 54:17 “No weapon formed against me and my home shall prosper and every tongue which rises up against me in judgment I shall condemn, for this is my heritage for me as His servant of the Lord. This is especially important prayer I do every day.
  9. I have learned not to feel or get overwhelmed or burdened with too many things to do. Rather, I daily prayer “Lord I trust in you with all my heart and not lean on my own understanding but in all my ways I acknowledge you, I seek your will in all I to do, please direct and guide my path” Proverbs 3: 5-6. This has helped me stay on track with his purpose and plan for my life in my daily walk with Him.
  10. A Prayer that I have learned “I surrender everything under your authority and leadership Holy Spirit, please guide me in your truth wisdom and discernment.”
  11. I have your divine wisdom, favor and anointing.
  12. Fill me Holy Spirit, and produce in me your love, peace, joy, …. all 9 fruits of the Spirit Gal 5:25
  13. I know, trust, believe, and receive from God all that He has in store for me.
  14. PRAYER FOR MY FAMILY: Pray God’s Word, the Bible, and His promises over you and your family powerful scriptures are in Ephesians 1: 15-23, Ephesians 3:14-19, and Colossians 1:9-14.
  15. And above all “I put on Jesus love which binds everything together in perfect harmony” Col 3:14. This is our marriage verse, that me and my husband pray everyday before we get out of bed.
  16. In Joshua 24:15 “But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. I declare this Word.
  17. I pray daily over my kids Isaiah 54:13 “All My Children, (their names) shall be thought by the Lord and great shall be the peace, prosperity, and blessing of my children. This is God’s promise for my children and grandchildren, even spiritual children.
  18. PROTECTION: I always plead the blood of Jesus over my home, my children, their names, my car and my family, my mind, my heart, my soul, my emotions, and my body. Cover us in your precious blood, water and fire.
  19.  Lord protect us from the evil one and wicked people.  Cover us under the shadow of His wings. Warring angels according to Psalm 91 protection from all harm and evil not come near us.
  20. I call and charge the angels of God to minister and bring the breakthrough and reveal God to my family, friends, and everyone in this world to be saved.
  21. REPENTANCE: I repent and confess all I could have done right or what I missed. I repent of all my sins of unrighteousness, my words, thoughts, feelings, and every secret thing, that is not of faith.
  22. SPIRITUAL WARFARE: I bind every evil spirit of distraction, hindrances, sabotage, darkness and cancel assignment and plan of the enemy. I loosen God’s plan to be accomplished over my life.
  23. I bind and rebuke every evil spirit attacking me. All fear worry, anxiety, doubts, lies, stress, unbelief sicknesses do not belong to me, and instead I release the Spirit of faith, truth, love, peace, harmony, rest, healing, and full trust in my God.
  24. I rebuke all evil spirits attacking me in my mind and my life, my family and my friends, etc.
  25. I am free from all bondage’s. I am fruitful and productive, not just busy.
  26. The Lord is my shepherd I put him over everything, to fight all my battles and intercede for me
  27. I pray Spirit of salvation, repentance, truth, and light and all come to their senses, including my family and every soul that I am praying for specifically. This I pray over our nation and all people.
  28. I decree & declare Spirit of conviction, of Holy Spirit over the person you are praying for: name.
  29. HEALING: I pray good report healing through Jesus stripes I am healed, and I am overcoming this illness. Say “My body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit and no sickness and disease belongs here in Jesus name.” amen. Do not own, accept, or profess to the ownership of sickness or disease.
  30. My Heavenly Father is Jehovah Jireh “the Lord will provide” who is my provider. And my God will supply (my every) need of His according to His riches in Glory in Christ Jesus Phil 4:19. Amen let it so be done unto me.
  31. I humble myself under your mighty hand Lord that in due time you will raise me up. I surrender and cast all of my care on you Lord, as you care for me, and love me. 1 Peter 5:6-7
  32. AGREE WITH GOD’S PLAN: Lord I bring every area of my life and my heart in order and peace; to align with your will and purposes and Perfect plan for me.
  33. For God has not given us (me) a spirit of fear; but of power, love, & a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
  34. I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life that I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Gal 2:20) My old self has been crucified in Christ and now I live a new creation man life.
  35. Be still and know that He is God he will be exalted among nations and earth. Psalm 46:10
  36. “I know that you can do everything, and that no purpose of Yours can be withheld from You. Job 42:2. This is the verse I stand on the plans and promises of God, that will be done in my life.
  37. THANKFULNESS TO GOD: Thank you, Lord, for the good and bad, trials, wilderness experience because you are with me always. Thank you for loving, choosing, and accepting me just as I am.
  38. Apart from you Jesus, I cannot do anything John 15:5. I acknowledge that I need God daily.
  39. I want more of you Jesus and less of me. He must become greater; I must become less John 3:30
  40. Therefore, there is now no condemnation for (me) those who are in Christ Jesus Romans 8:1.

The Lords prayer is the greatest one: “This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Mathew 6: 9-14). Pray this daily it covers all areas of our life.

One of my most recent crafted prayer’s is: Good morning Holy Spirit, I love you and I thank you for your fresh new mercy today, that I can start all over again, my past is gone, and today is a new beginning. I love you my Heavenly Father, you are so good, kind and loving to me. I honor you and praise your Holy name. I give you all the credit and glory that only belongs to You alone. I thank you for giving me life and breathe today. I love you Jesus, my best friend, you’re everything that I need to satisfy my soul. Thank you for being so tender and gentle with me, for fighting my battles, defending me, protecting me, and providing for all my needs. I am honored to be your child, your daughter, to sit with you in the heavenly places, to know and experience your true unconditional love every day of my life. Thank you for paying the price to save me by your precious blood. Thank you for choosing me from the beginning of the world to belong to you. I love and delight in our communion all 4 of us together as one. I am so happy Lord to be a new creation in Christ Jesus who has made me to be in the image of Jesus Christ. Be glorified my God in everything that I do and say, let it all be unto you. I love your people you send me today to be a blessing to them, loving them as you are so am I. Amen.

Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. (3 John 1:2). I pray that you be equipped and encouraged to pray as you are led. Know that God has a good plan to prosper you and to give you a future and hope, according to Jeremiah 29:11.

 Many Blessings,

Tanya Wheeler is a wife, mom, hope writer, prayer warrior, and marriage mentor. Loves Jesus and inspires people to know and experience the love of God. BA Degree in Business Administration.

Do You Want to See a Change in Your Life? It Begins with Me

Hi, my name is Tanya Wheeler, and this is my story of what God has been teaching me lately. Recently, I sensed an urge to write about my most recent experience with my mom, and the real change in her life after she almost died in the hospital due to COVID19. I wanted to see a real change in someone that I love and care about.  I needed to first allow God to change my heart and mind, to reveal within me what is inside of me that needs to change first. My thinking was “did I need to repent or learn or act differently?”

I remember back in 2006 when I really encountered God in a deeper way.  I remember what God said to me “that if I start the change with my own life first than He can change everyone around me”. Because of this I have found that what God told me to be true. When people asked me about Christians, God, and the Bible, I have seen a great outcome and many blessings in my life. By being a follower of Jesus Christ, allowing God and His Word to transform me, I am more like Him, His image and likeness. And, as a result, my time with God has been deeper and richer in getting to know Him, His heart, His character and His nature. I have discovered how good, kind, and loving He really is.

One of the most life changing things that I have learned, this lesson from my own true-life experience, and a big help during this time was from my Pastor friend and consultant.  He explained to me how important it is to let God work on my heart first, as it is the most valuable to God. As a result, I got well and now I can see the outcome in ourselves and our loved ones; we might even see changes in our circumstances. It all begins with me changing and discovering what God is teaching, healing, working on in my life, in each situation that I am facing. It could be like our loved one’s parent, children, recovering, marriage issues, a divorce, struggle with addiction or sin to overcome.

Some of the keys I learned to have victory:

  • The people and circumstances are here to serve us, for our good outcome and upgrade.
  • There are things inside of our hearts and minds that need to change, get uprooted and healed.
  • That person or situation is exactly what is right and needed for me.
  • It is important to say “Thank you Lord for this person and situation, praying that deep inside of your mind and heart before the Lord.
  • Then it is important to pray and say “I choose to forgive, release, bless, and let them go into your hands God to deal with them and this situation.

Only God’s grace can heal you, but you need to take the necessary steps to see the change:

  1. Admit that you have a problem. Writing or talking about a lot of your heart hurts really helps.
  2. Get unstuck in your situation by not thinking you are weak. Do not act as a victim anymore.
  3. Forgive and accept – the person and the situation in your life.
  4. Go back to the person to serve them, and not to change them.
  5. Find another source to fill you up in God’s love as a Heavenly Father and Spiritual family.

Based on what I have learned, I have grown and matured in these areas so much to see the real good fruit and result in my life. Matthew 7:3-5 (NIV)“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” It all begins with our heart, mind and life first before we want to see the change in another person. It is a process, but it depends on how bad you want it. The real question to ask yourself is, how deep are you willing to go and how fully you can allow the Holy Spirit to minister to and heal you?

As a result, what I have seen over my life is that as I have understood and taken the steps to heal my heart, God has blessed me. I now have an amazing husband whom God used to change my whole household family and brought order and peace in my home that I have prayed and longed for many years. One of the biggest surprises through this process was that I had to learn my role and how to set healthy boundaries, to not accept guilt or own responsibility that belonged to another person. It was such a relief. Now I pray God change me first. I pray and hope that you apply these steps to bring you the good change that you are looking to see in your life. Remember that before you want to see the change in another person or your situation, it all begins with me first. Many Blessings,

Tanya Wheeler is a wife, mom, hope writer, prayer warrior and marriage mentor. Loves Jesus and inspires people to know and experience the love of God. BA Degree in Business Administration.

Tanya’s Salvation Story

Hi, my name is Tanya Wheeler, and this is my story of how I came to know Jesus. I was born into a Ukraine Christian family, but it was more of a religious traditional way. After my family moved to America, I went to a Ukraine church on a regular basis.  It was hard staying at home with my family because of the challenges in the house. My safe runaway place to go and hide away from problems was church and just about anything else that was about God. I would dress with long skirts and covering over my head.  I did not fully understand who God was and this was just part of my culture. People would call me holy Tanya, because I acted, performed and dressed as a deeply religious person. I liked to pray, but I did not know what a real relationship with God was.

I only knew about God, but not who He was for me personally. I thought that I had to go through a prophet to hear from God. I remember when I was 16 years old, I got water baptized, and I wanted to serve God with a husband, become a missionary and travel to different places. I thought I was saved because I was born into a Christian family, went to church, read the Bible and prayed. I never heard no one preach or say about the sinner’s prayer.

Before I met Jesus, I felt that I had to earn and do good works to be holy and pleasing to God, to hear Him and to go to Heaven. When I was 18 years old, I wanted to know the truth and what love is. I desired for someone to love me. I needed to know who God was and to hear from Him directly. I had to pray with a prophet or a Pastor to hear from God on what I need to do and make a big decision. It made me sad and confused why I had to depend on someone higher to hear from God. I began to question “why I could not hear Him for myself?” When I went to church, I felt the warmth and presence of His love, but I never experienced my own salvation moment.

After I got married and had two beautiful daughters, and I had begun to encounter more of the Lord. I remember a time when I was searching for something that I knew was missing in my life, missing on the inside of me. I longed for truth, to know who God truly is, and what makes a true Christian life. I wanted someone to love me. I finally had that experience and it truly has changed my life. In 2005 I went to a Russian Church Encounter retreat, where my heart was opened, and I allowed others to serve me. I had kept so many things of pain inside of my hard heart. For all these years without feeling much of anything, until I encountered God and got healed and delivered from rejection and so much pain inside of my heart. I cried like a little child for a long time.  I felt like the worse sinner ever. The warm presence of His love created that search in my heart to know more about Jesus, a longing that was now growing.

 I remember having my life be okay, but there was a piece of me missing. I knew I needed something more to fill in that void. I experienced a deep desire inside of my heart for more of God and so I went into my room alone shut the door, got on my knees and prayed.  I saw myself, a young blonde little girl running to God and Jesus picked me up to Himself. I knew He loved me. My Heavenly Father is always with me and for me and loves me so much. Then we moved to Florida from California.

 I never understood what a real relationship with God was until March of 2008yr in Florida, 10 years later. I felt it in my veins, my heart racing with anger and persistence at the same time. It was like I had to pray many hours to hear from God and that I was good enough. This raging time with God where I felt like God must hear me because I spent so much time with Him, and it seemed all for nothing. My emptiness and depression from frustration with God and life drove me into a mindset of suicide. I remember reading Proverbs 3:7, “Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.”  After that I heard Joyce Meyer speak on TV, she was talking about the salvation and welcomed us to repeat a prayer after her. I did repeat that prayer for the first time in my life. I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I then realized that is the day that I got saved and my life has really changed. I knew what grace and love of God was. I have always longed for a real relationship with God ever since. My spiritual eyes were open, I understood what the gospel and love of God was.

When I talked to my oldest brother about my salvation, he said that he did hear the salvation prayer in church we went to. I thought it Interesting how for 28yrs my eyes were closed to hear about the salvation prayer, until my lowest point God reached out to rescue and to save me. In order to become a Christian, I just prayed, repented and accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. The salvation was so simple and easy, I did not have to be perfect to receive Jesus into my heart.  I can come just as I am, even in my worst condition. He came to save me. He has pursued and chosen me from the beginning of the world to know Him personally.

Before I knew about Him, but now I know him personally and intimately. Now that I have become a Christian, my salvation experience, I am growing more in the knowledge of who God is for me. He answered my biggest question, of what real love is like and that I can hear His voice for myself. I have reached out to a couple women that have lost their faith and they came back to the Lord Jesus Christ. I feel amazing having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I love and enjoy being alone with the Lord, going to church and having fellowship with other believers in home groups. Every day I set aside a quiet and alone time with the Lord to gaze upon Him and experience His love and presence. I hear Him speak inside of my heart and mind. He brings peace and comfort into my whole being to be strong in Him.

When I think about God as my Heavenly Father who is Good, so kind, and such a loving God. I pray and desire for all to know, understand and experience God’s love. I still have some questions. I admit that I still have many struggles with fears, worry’s, anxiety, stress, doubts of life challenging circumstances. But knowing and having God’s love is where I run to every time. The unconditional love of God changes me inside of my heart. I am so aware even more of that because of what I have, and I now know. What is love, and really is that it is safe and pure and right and that relationship with Him just makes me even become more closer to Him in the midst of many trials. I have learned many lessons and I am still in process.

A decade ago, I had a missionary come across the beach where I lived and said that I need to write my story and it is to be told. I wanted to write a book about having a relationship with God. I want to share with many people about God’s unconditional love that changed my life forever. I am not the same, I am a new creation, and I love God even more today. Now I want to write a blog and share about the love of God which is the greatest gift and the story of my life.

I had divorced an abusive man and remarried to an amazing man of God who loves me like Christ loves the church. Our love with each other resembles the love of God. We are in the process of writing our first book together about, “The Power of Choosing Love. Why Broken Pieces fit perfectly together.” Amazing story of God’s redemption work in our marriage. How He is restoring and healing us to help and give hope to many singles wanting to be in a relationship and marriage mentoring.

I have recommitted my life to the Lord many times ever since to serve Him and follow Him. The more I understand who God is, I receive an even deeper inner healing. But now I can look forward to the future because God is putting all my pieces together for His glory. I have graduated from William Jessup University with BA in Business Administration with Project Management concentration. I plan on pursuing my calling to writing books, speaking, teaching, and sharing the love of Jesus with everyone. That is my story. 


Tanya Wheeler is a wife, mom, hope writer, prayer warrior and marriage mentors with her husband James Wheeler. Loves Jesus and inspires people to know and experience the love of God. BA Degree in Business Administration.